If you’re like me I’m sure you’ve heard “control what you can control” a thousand times and rolled your eyes a bit and moved on. “What does that even mean when everything around me is out of my control,” is usually my next thought. My partner, Ashley, and I had this exact conversation today, which prompted this blog post. The stress level hit the roof, but not for reasons you might be thinking.
Flash Back 3 Months
A little back story, in January Ashely became a full time artist. She left the safety of an everyday paycheck and chased her dream of working for herself. It was a few months after that it was becoming clear that I would be the sole owner of Icehouse. We were so excited, and then this crazy world wide thing happened, you might have heard of it, COVID-19. It was 2 days after I signed the paperwork to be the sole owner, that we shut the doors for an unknown amount of time. At this time, Ashely was making most of her money from in person workshops, things got really real.
The Social Distancing
We took a moment to celebrate and a day to panic.We sat down and made a plan of how can we stay as safe as possible. What are the things, that we as a family, are okay with and not okay with. After that day of panic and planning, I took a morning in my office at home with a cup of coffee and started writing. My perspective shifted. We have a plan that feels good, we have an opportunity to focus on careers we love doing, and we can still create and help people.
Feel All the Feelings
Ashley painted three really awesome paintings during this time and that lead to several painting orders. This should be a really exciting time, but it wasn’t. With all the negative, and feelings of grief and fear, it can be really challenging to allow yourself to feel joy. As we talked more about this, we made the decision that we could feel happy. We can “control what we can control.” These are things like making paintings, busting our ass to create an Icehouse experience, innovating new ways to do business in a virtual world, working out and eating right, and the way we communicate with each other. We can shelter in place and still create, still be of service (one of our personal core values) and still allow ourselves to feel all of the feelings, which include joy and excitement.
If you are struggling with the feeling of being out of control, I challenge you to write down the things, in your world, that you can control. What are some ways you are feeling grateful? How can you continue to do the things you love? If you need help with this please reach out, these are the types of things my staff and I love to do. We love to help.